At some point, you (or someone you love) decided your feelings were TOO MUCH.
Since then, you've done everything possible NOT to feel your messes, struggles, doubts, and pain.
At some point, you (or someone you love) decided your feelings were TOO MUCH.
Since then, you've done everything possible NOT to feel your messes, struggles, doubts, and pain.
(YOU STILL SQUEAL for puppies, though!)
(You still squeal when you hold a puppy, though.
some emotions can't be tamed.)
You're not broken.
You just got the message.
You're not broken. You just got the message.
Becoming Hard is a (seemingly) mandatory part of growing up: quit FEELING so much!
For those of us who are sensitive, empathic, or emotionally intelligent beyond our years, Becoming Hard is how you get by and power through.
Hard screams that you've got to earn your keep, earn your rest, and earn your worth.
It runs roughshod over intuition and scoffs at any sort of growth that can’t be measured with analytics. It can’t understand why money doesn’t feed your soul — just try harder!
Hard has no room for mess or doubt or joy or being human because the goal of being hard is to erase your ‘weaknesses’ and all your vulnerabilities.
Also, feelings. NO FEELINGS FOR YOU.
Becoming Hard is a (seemingly) mandatory part of growing up: quit FEELING so much!
For those of us who are sensitive, empathic, or emotionally intelligent beyond our years, Becoming Hard is how you get by and power through.
Hard screams that you've got to earn your keep, earn your rest, and earn your worth.
It runs roughshod over intuition and scoffs at any sort of growth that can’t be measured with analytics. It can’t understand why money doesn’t feed your soul — just try harder!
Hard has no room for mess or doubt or joy or being human because the goal of being hard is to erase your ‘weaknesses’ and all your vulnerabilities.
Also, feelings. NO FEELINGS FOR YOU.
I opted into Being Hard in every aspect of my existence, which helped my markers of 'success' but killed my interior life.
Over time, Being Hard went from a coping mechanism to my default setting. I no longer felt connected to my breath, intuition, sexual organs, or even my own ideas.
Because I was actively trying to murder all of my feelings and general 'too much'ness, I did some *really* smart things.
Like that time I knew I wanted a divorce and stayed in the relationship for another seven years. Or that time I was 'too busy' to go to the doctor so my thyroid shut all the way down, meaning I gained 20 pounds in 6 weeks, and had to take two naps a day to get by. Again: so so smart.
It wasn't until about five years ago that it dawned on me: Being Hard might not be the answer.
I discovered breathwork -- which I'll teach you -- and started to soften. I opened box after box after box within my own heart and breathed through the emotions I'd stuffed there. Turns out the other side of everything I was avoiding held softness, steadiness, pleasure, and joy.
I came back to myself, bigger and fuller and more alive than ever. And I learned a bunch of things about my soul along the way.
Ahoy there, I'm Kristen!
The Softness Sessions!
The Softness Sessions!
That's why i made
That's why i made
Each weekly session consists of an extremely hard-earned teaching and a breathwork exercise.
Breathwork makes use of a simple 3-part breathing pattern to consciously clear old patterns and emotional residue from the body. It can be a bit intimidating, so the first session's practice is about 12 minutes long, building to more than twice that time as you get more comfortable with the practice.
Each week, we're consciously engaging in momentary discomfort for the sake of connecting with your own interiors and diving into your truest expression of life on this planet. (Expansion! Aliveness! Joy! All you have to do is breathe with me!)
We'll face what's stuck, outdated, unconscious, or unheard within you. That means you'll leave behind a great deal of doubt, mess, struggle, fear, and hurt.
You'll find your knowing on the other side of all that work.
Knowing exactly which step to take next.
Knowing what you actually want, not what society says you want.
Knowing which interior voices are your own -- and which are someone else's.
Knowing which projects are meant to take shape -- and which are distracting you from your truest work.
Knowing what feels good, what could feel better, and how to access the place of pure light within yourself. (NBD, right?)
Each weekly session consists of an ultra-dense, extremely hard-earned teaching and a breathwork exercise.
Breathwork makes use of a simple 3-part breathing pattern to consciously clear old patterns and emotional residue from the body. It can be a bit intimidating, so the first session's practice is about 12 minutes long, building to more than twice that time as you get more comfortable with the practice.
Each week, we're consciously engaging in momentary discomfort for the sake of connecting with your own interiors and diving into your truest expression of life on this planet. (Expansion! Aliveness! Joy! All you have to do is breathe with me!)
We'll face what's stuck, outdated, unconscious, or unheard within you. That means you'll leave behind a great deal of doubt, mess, struggle, fear, and hurt.
You'll find your knowing on the other side of all that work.
Knowing things like:
+ exactly which step to take next.
+ what you actually want, not what society says you want.
+ which interior voices are your own -- and which are someone else's.
+ which projects are meant to take shape -- and which are distracting you from your truest work.
+ what feels good, what could feel better, and how to access the place of pure light within yourself. (NBD.)
join now!
The Softness Sessions will help you (re)gain access to your inner knowing.
The Softness Sessions will help you (re)gain access to your inner knowing.
It's possible to lie down, breathe, and rise up knowing far more than you did an hour before.
The Softness Sessions will show you how.
It's possible to lie down, breathe, and rise up knowing far more than you did an hour before. The Softness Sessions will show you how.
book/journal
You'll get an analog copy of The Softness Sessions, which includes both a transcript of the program highlights and a place to capture your post-breathwork insights.
Gorgeous, simple, and effective.
You'll get an analog copy of The Softness Sessions, which includes both a transcript of the program highlights and a place to capture your post-breathwork insights. Gorgeous, simple, and effective.
AN ACTUAL REAL LIFE BOOK!
weekly sessions
Each of the 6 Softness Sessions are delivered via email. The class starts with the exploration of a human universal and concludes with a mini breathwork session.
The next round starts on March 19th, 2020.
AUDIO GOODNESS x 6
live class
Once you've been doing breathwork in small stints weekly, you're ready to dive in with both feet and do an extended session!
The live class is recorded and delivered on April 30th, 2020.
Once you've been doing breathwork in small stints weekly, you're ready to dive in with both feet and do an extended session! Live on April 30th, 2020, with a recording included for all.
LIVE BREATHWORK CLASS
You'll get:
“...love this course. I feel like it should be a prerequisite for adulthood. The realness is rare and refreshing.”
—Joanna
McDonald
“...love this course. I feel like it should be a prerequisite for adulthood. The realness is rare and refreshing.”
—Joanna McDonald
Imagine how utterly friggin different your life would be if:
Imagine how utterly friggin different your life would be if:
Who would you be?
What would you make?
...and how much is that worth?
Who would you be? What would you make?
...and how much is that worth?
...you were twenty percent kinder to yourself every day.
Or 10%.
Or even 1.2%.
...you gave up people pleasing, doubting your decisions, and believing everything asshole brain has to say.
...you were less susceptible to the needs, whims, desires, and energies of others. (No crying when others cry! It's possible!)
...you were less susceptible to the needs, whims, desires, and energies of others.
...you deeply and completely trusted yourself.
...you deeply and completely trusted yourself.
The Softness Sessions cost $88, but reaaaaaally the price is the smallness and stuckness you're carrying around right now.
The Softness Sessions cost $88, but reaaaaaally the price is the smallness and stuckness you're carrying around right now.
sign me up!
THE HOT LONELINESS
3/19
Each session dives into a tricky-but-universal human lesson:
Each session dives into a tricky-but-universal human lesson:
We'll talk about why you don't have to be afraid of your feelings, your desires, or your insides any longer -- and then begin to explore your interior continent.
THE MESS
3/26
Believe it or not, there are massive rewards mixed into every single one of your messes. We'll begin to mine them for all they're worth.
THE DOUBT
4/2
You'll learn to identify, listen to, and then dismiss asshole brain, in an hour or less. THIS ONE IS WORTH THE COST OF ADMISSION ALL BY ITSELF.
THE WILDERNESS
4/9
I'll show you how to cope when you feel lost, alone, and abandoned by everyone and everything, including your own soul.
THE STEADINESS
4/16
Your intuition has never gone away, but it might have gotten quieter over time. You'll learn to tune in to the steadiness and guidance that's always humming beneath the surface.
THE JOY
4/23
You'll learn to bring joy into your life starting right now -- today, this very second -- without any spiritual bypassing or 'high vibes only' bullshit. Bonus! It's 2 decades' worth of clinical depression wrapped into a single session.
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let's do this
The Softness Sessions are 🦆ing perfect for you if...
The Softness Sessions are 🦆ing perfect for you if...
01.
you've got out-oF-control asshole brain.
The stuff that holds you back is mostly within you: your doubt, your fear, your indecisiveness, your procrastination, and your believing every bad thing your mind says about you. Let's change that.
02.
you've been trying *not* to feel for years now.
You were told you were too much or dramatic or to 'get over it' since childhood. Those suppressed feels aren't dormant, though; they're taking up space in your interiors. We'll find 'em, feel 'em, and free 'em.
03.
you make yourself 'earn' rest or joy or fun.
Overachiever friend, I see you! Sometimes you have actual work to do, but sometimes you're just putting in your time so you can feel like you've earned Netflix or sex or screens or fun. You can get better at this! Promise.
04.
YOU CAN'T TELL WHICH ENERGY IS YOURS AND WHICH belongs to someone else.
You'll learn to access, feel, and discern your energetic signature, which helps you ignore everyone else's. Translation: you won't be afraid of humans any longer.
“Such a cleverly orchestrated combination of your wit, personality, great tunes and breathing techniques that help the listener surrender.” —Jo Robertson
“Such a cleverly orchestrated combination of your wit, personality, great tunes and breathing techniques that help the listener surrender.” —Jo Robertson
FAQs
All sessions are pre-recorded and delivered to your inbox, so you can listen to them at any time. Even the live session is recorded, so you won't miss a thing if you'd like to save these for later! The trick is to schedule time to do them now, regardless of when you plan to start.
This is the perfect starting point! I've actually designed the whole damn thing to be effective without ever doing the breathwork (because overachieving), so if you're interested in the subject matter and willing to give breathwork a shot, go for it!
In The Softness Sessions, you'll:
+ Meet your inner knowing so you can learn to trust yourself. (And stop buying $$$$ courses from 'experts.')
+ Let yourself feel instead of shutting down or judging yourself for being 'too sensitive' or 'too much.'
+ Practice bypassing asshole brain so you can explore your inner world. (The stuff you'll make! I can't even wait!)
+ Clear emotional debris to feel lighter, freer, and less like a turd bouquet. (For less than the cost of 1 therapy session.)
+ Learn to be kinder to yourself so you can be kinder to everyone else. (Your loved ones will thank you!)
I've wasted thousands of dollars on all sorts of courses when what I really needed was to tune in to my own damn self. Because I am super awesome, I prefer to learn lessons in the most costly and difficult way possible. Please don't be as super awesome as me.
In The Softness Sessions, you'll:
Meet your inner knowing so you can learn to trust yourself. (And stop buying $$$$ courses from 'experts.')
Let yourself feel instead of shutting down or judging yourself for being 'too sensitive' or 'too much.'
Practice bypassing asshole brain so you can explore your inner world. (The stuff you'll make! I can't even wait!)
Clear emotional debris to feel lighter, freer, and less like a turd bouquet. (For less than the cost of 1 therapy session.)
Learn to be kinder to yourself so you can be kinder to everyone else. (Your loved ones will thank you!)
PI've wasted thousands of dollars on all sorts of courses when what I really needed was to tune in to my own damn self. Because I am super awesome, I prefer to learn lessons in the most costly and difficult way possible. Please don't be as super awesome as me.
But will breathwork help you? Here's what other peeps have to say:
But will breathwork help you? Here's what other peeps have to say:
“Thank you for facilitating breathwork and for helping me reconnect to my spiritual side. The past few weeks have had an entirely different flow to them, and breathwork has a had a huge part to play in that."
THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME RECONNECT TO MY SPIRITUAL SIDE
-- Kelly Costigan
"Have done a couple of your breathwork sessions before and have had a great and powerful experience, but it has felt as sort of a big step to do a lengthier session and have therefore only saved it for crisis situations. With these shorter sessions I look forward to making it a weekly routine."
GREAT AND POWERFUL EXPERIENCE
-- Julia Lillqvist
"It was such an amazing feeling to process my feelings from a place of safety and non-judgment. My world has shifted on its axis. I can't quite put into words how, but, I feel a wellspring of confidence in me, in my ability to take up space unapologetically."
