At some point, you (or someone you love) decided your feelings were TOO MUCH.
Since then, you've done everything possible NOT to feel your messes, struggles, doubts, and pain.
At some point, you (or someone you love) decided your feelings were TOO MUCH.
Since then, you've done everything possible NOT to feel your messes, struggles, doubts, and pain.
(YOU STILL SQUEAL for puppies, though!)
(You still squeal when you hold a puppy, though.
some emotions can't be tamed.)
You're not broken.
You just got the message.
You're not broken. You just got the message.
Becoming Hard is a (seemingly) mandatory part of growing up: quit FEELING so much!
For those of us who are sensitive, empathic, or emotionally intelligent beyond our years, Becoming Hard is how you get by and power through.
Hard screams that you've got to earn your keep, earn your rest, and earn your worth.
It runs roughshod over intuition and scoffs at any sort of growth that can’t be measured with analytics. It can’t understand why money doesn’t feed your soul — just try harder!
Hard has no room for mess or doubt or joy or being human because the goal of being hard is to erase your ‘weaknesses’ and all your vulnerabilities.
Also, feelings. NO FEELINGS FOR YOU. Not even during month #19 of pandemic!
Becoming Hard is a (seemingly) mandatory part of growing up: quit FEELING so much!
For those of us who are sensitive, empathic, or emotionally intelligent beyond our years, Becoming Hard is how you get by and power through.
Hard screams that you've got to earn your keep, earn your rest, and earn your worth.
It runs roughshod over intuition and scoffs at any sort of growth that can’t be measured with analytics. It can’t understand why money doesn’t feed your soul — just try harder!
Hard has no room for mess or doubt or joy or being human because the goal of being hard is to erase your ‘weaknesses’ and all your vulnerabilities.
Also, feelings. NO FEELINGS FOR YOU. Not even during month #19 of a global pandemic.
I opted into Being Hard in every aspect of my existence, which helped my markers of 'success' but killed my interior life.
Over time, Being Hard went from a coping mechanism to my default setting. I no longer felt connected to my breath, intuition, sexual organs, or even my own ideas.
Because I was *actively trying to murder all of my feelings and intuition,* I did some *really* smart things.
Like that time I knew I wanted a divorce and stayed in the relationship for another SEVEN years. Or that time I was 'too busy' to go to the doctor so my thyroid shut all the way down, meaning I gained 20 pounds in 6 weeks and had to take two naps a day to get by. Again: so so smart.
It wasn't until about six years ago that it dawned on me: Being Hard might not be the answer.
I discovered breathwork -- which I'll teach you -- and started to soften. I opened box after box after box within my own heart and breathed through the emotions I'd stuffed there. Turns out the other side of everything I was avoiding held softness, steadiness, pleasure, and joy.
I came back to myself, bigger and fuller and more alive than ever. The depression I'd been battling shifted to the background. And I learned a bunch of things about my soul along the way.
Ahoy there, I'm Kristen!
The Softness Sessions!
The Softness Sessions!
That's why i made
That's why i made
Each monthly session consists of an extremely hard-earned teaching and a breathwork exercise.
Breathwork makes use of a simple 3-part breathing pattern to consciously clear old patterns and emotional residue from the body. It can be a bit intimidating, so the first session's practice is about 12 minutes long, building to more than twice that time as you get more comfortable with the practice.
Each month, we're consciously engaging in momentary discomfort for the sake of connecting with your own interiors and diving into your truest expression of life on this planet. (Expansion! Aliveness! Joy! All you have to do is breathe with me!)
We'll face what's stuck, outdated, unconscious, or unheard within you. That means you'll leave behind a great deal of doubt, mess, struggle, fear, and hurt.
You'll find your knowing on the other side of all that work.
Knowing exactly which step to take next.
Knowing what you actually want, not what society says you want.
Knowing which interior voices are your own -- and which are someone else's.
Knowing which projects are meant to take shape -- and which are distracting you from your truest work.
Knowing what feels good, what could feel better, and how to access the place of pure light within yourself. (NBD, right?)
Each monthly set of sessions consists of an ultra-dense, extremely hard-earned teaching and a breathwork exercise.
Breathwork makes use of a simple 3-part breathing pattern to consciously clear old patterns and emotional residue from the body. It can be a bit intimidating, so the first session's practice is about 12 minutes long, building to more than twice that time as you get more comfortable with the practice.
Each month, we're consciously engaging in momentary discomfort for the sake of connecting with your own interiors and diving into your truest expression of life on this planet. (Expansion! Aliveness! Joy! All you have to do is breathe with me!)
We'll face what's stuck, outdated, unconscious, or unheard within you. That means you'll leave behind a great deal of doubt, mess, struggle, fear, and hurt.
You'll find your knowing on the other side of all that work.
Knowing things like:
+ exactly which step to take next.
+ what you actually want, not what society says you want.
+ which interior voices are your own -- and which are someone else's.
+ which projects are meant to take shape -- and which are distracting you from your truest work.
+ what feels good, what could feel better, and how to access the place of pure light within yourself. (NBD.)
The Softness Sessions will help you ditch pandemic numbness and (re)gain access to your inner knowing.
The Softness Sessions will help you ditch pandemic numbness and (re)gain access to your inner knowing.
It's possible to lie down, breathe, and rise up knowing far more than you did an hour before.
The Softness Sessions will show you how.
It's possible to lie down, breathe, and rise up knowing far more than you did an hour before. The Softness Sessions will show you how.
Imagine how utterly friggin different your life would be if:
Imagine how utterly friggin different your life would be if:
Who would you be?
What would you make?
...and how much is that worth?
Who would you be? What would you make?
...and how much is that worth?
...you were twenty percent kinder to yourself every day.
Or 10%.
Or even 1.2%.
...you gave up people pleasing, doubting your decisions, and believing everything asshole brain has to say.
...you were less susceptible to the needs, whims, desires, and energies of others. (No crying when others cry! It's possible!)
...you were less susceptible to the needs, whims, desires, and energies of others.
...you deeply and completely trusted yourself.
...you deeply and completely trusted yourself.
The Softness Sessions cost $198, but reaaaaaally the price is the smallness and stuckness you're carrying around right now.
You'll get TWELVE full classes (*plus 4 bonus classes!) spread over six months to help you unfurl like a mofo.
The Softness Sessions cost $198, but reaaaaaally the price is the smallness and stuckness you're carrying around right now.
sign me up!
BUY NOW
“...love this course. I feel like it should be a prerequisite for adulthood. The realness is rare and refreshing.”
—Joanna
McDonald
“...love this course. I feel like it should be a prerequisite for adulthood. The realness is rare and refreshing.”
—Joanna McDonald
THE HOT LONELINESS
10/22
Each session dives into a tricky-but-universal human lesson:
Each session dives into a tricky-but-universal human lesson:
We'll talk about why you don't have to be afraid of your feelings, your desires, or your insides any longer -- and then begin to explore your interior continent.
THE MESS
11/19
Believe it or not, there are massive rewards mixed into every single one of your messes. We'll begin to mine them for all they're worth.
THE DOUBT
12/10
You'll learn to identify, listen to, and then dismiss asshole brain, in an hour or less. THIS ONE IS WORTH THE COST OF ADMISSION ALL BY ITSELF.
THE WILDERNESS
1/14
I'll show you how to cope when you feel lost, alone, and abandoned by everyone and everything, including your own soul.
THE STEADINESS
2/11
Your intuition has never gone away, but it might have gotten quieter over time. You'll learn to tune in to the steadiness and guidance that's always humming beneath the surface.
THE JOY
3/11
You'll learn to bring joy into your life starting right now -- today, this very second -- without any spiritual bypassing or 'high vibes only' bullshit. Bonus! It's 2 decades' worth of clinical depression wrapped into a single session.
e-book/journal
You'll get an electronic copy of The Softness Sessions, featuring a transcript of the program highlights and a place to capture your post-breathwork insights.
Gorgeous, simple, and effective.
You'll get an electronic copy of The Softness Sessions, featuring a transcript of the program highlights and a place to capture your post-breathwork insights.
Gorgeous, simple, and effective.
READERS' DELIGHT
recorded sessions
These are delivered monthly via email. Each class starts with the exploration of a human universal and concludes with a mini breathwork session.
The next round kicks off on October 22, 2021.
AUDIO GOODNESS x 6
monthly sessions
You'll have 6 chances to breathe LIVE with everyone in class! Our sessions in 2021 go down on October 22nd, November 19th, and December 10th at 2pm ET. 2022 sessions take place on January 14th, February 11th, and March 11th. All are recorded for later listening.
You'll have 6 chances to breathe LIVE with everyone in class! Our sessions in 2021 go down on October 22nd, November 19th, and December 10th at 2pm ET. 2022 sessions take place on January 14th, February 11th, and March 11th. All are recorded for later listening.
live breathwork x 6
You'll get:
You'll get:
LIBRARY
Enjoy 3 previously recorded breathwork sessions so you can start practicing breathwork IMMEDIATELY upon checkout. Classes for receiving, for boundaries, and for overachievers are included.
$66 value.
Enjoy 3 previously recorded breathwork sessions so you can start practicing breathwork IMMEDIATELY upon checkout. Classes for receiving, for boundaries, and for overachievers are included.
$66 value.
3 EXTRA CLASSES ON DEMAND!
SEPTEMBER SESSION
This session lets you get familiar with our class setup and try out the practice before our deep dive begins. Goes down September 17, 2021 at 2pm ET.
$22 value.
BONUS LIVE BREATHWORK!
PLUS these bonuses ending September 16th:
PLUS these bonuses ending September 16th:
The Softness Sessions are 🦆ing perfect for you if...
The Softness Sessions are 🦆ing perfect for you if...
01.
you've got out-oF-control asshole brain. (hello, pandemic messiness!)
Covid is crazy-making, but the stuff that MOST holds you back is within you: your doubt, your fear, your indecisiveness, your procrastination, and your believing every bad thing your mind says about you. Let's change that.
02.
you've been trying *not* to feel for years now.
You were told you were too much or dramatic or to 'get over it' since childhood. Those suppressed feels aren't dormant! We'll find 'em and feel 'em so that you regain access to lightness, vibrancy -- and whatever the opposite feeling of doomscrolling is.
03.
you make yourself 'earn' rest or joy or fun.
Overachiever friend, I see you! Sometimes you have actual work to do, but sometimes you're just putting in your time so you can feel like you've earned Netflix or sex or screens or fun. You can get better at this! Promise.
04.
YOU CAN'T TELL WHICH ENERGY IS YOURS AND WHICH belongs to someone else.
You'll learn to access, feel, and discern your energetic signature, which helps you ignore everyone else's.
👉🏻Empath, enneagram 4, or highly sensitive person? I'M ALL 3 AND THE SOFTNESS SESSIONS CAN HELP YOU COPE.
“Such a cleverly orchestrated combination of your wit, personality, great tunes and breathing techniques that help the listener surrender.” —Jo Robertson
“Such a cleverly orchestrated combination of your wit, personality, great tunes and breathing techniques that help the listener surrender.” —Jo Robertson
But will breathwork help you? Here's what other peeps have to say:
But will breathwork help you? Here's what other peeps have to say:
“Thank you for facilitating breathwork and for helping me reconnect to my spiritual side. The past few weeks have had an entirely different flow to them, and breathwork has a had a huge part to play in that."
THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME RECONNECT TO MY SPIRITUAL SIDE
-- Kelly Costigan
"Have done a couple of your breathwork sessions before and have had a great and powerful experience, but it has felt as sort of a big step to do a lengthier session and have therefore only saved it for crisis situations. With these shorter sessions I look forward to making it a weekly routine."
GREAT AND POWERFUL EXPERIENCE
-- Julia Lillqvist
"It was such an amazing feeling to process my feelings from a place of safety and non-judgment. My world has shifted on its axis. I can't quite put into words how, but, I feel a wellspring of confidence in me, in my ability to take up space unapologetically."
A WELLSPRING OF CONFIDENCE
-- Amita Rao
FAQs
All sessions are pre-recorded and delivered to your inbox, so you can listen to them at any time. Even the live sessions are recorded, so you won't miss a thing if you'd like to save these for later! The trick is to schedule time to do them now, regardless of when you plan to start.
This is the perfect starting point! I've actually designed the whole damn thing to be effective without ever doing the breathwork (because overachieving), so if you're interested in the subject matter and willing to give breathwork a shot, go for it!
In The Softness Sessions, you'll:
+ Meet your inner knowing so you can learn to trust yourself. (And stop buying $$$$ courses from 'experts.')
+ Let yourself feel instead of shutting down or judging yourself for being 'too sensitive' or 'too much.'
+ Practice bypassing asshole brain so you can explore your inner world. (The stuff you'll find! I can't even wait!)
+ Clear emotional debris to feel lighter, freer, and less like a turd bouquet. (For the cost of 2 therapy sessions.)
+ Learn to be kinder to yourself so you can be kinder to everyone else. (Your loved ones will thank you!)
I've wasted SO MANY THOUSANDS of dollars on all sorts of courses when what I really needed was to tune in to my own damn self. Because I am super awesome, I prefer to learn lessons in the most costly and difficult way possible. Please don't be as super awesome as me.
Through The Softness Sessions, you’ll start to drop your ‘hard’ behaviors, feel your feelings, and embrace your intuition.
That means you’ll also stop jamming your feelings into boxes and pretending they don’t exist, quit making yourself wrong for having feelings in the first place, and stop asking everyone else what you should do instead of tuning in to your own wisdom. Bonus: you’ll be way more fun to be around!
Most importantly, you’ll learn to access the safe space within yourself — where you know who you are, what you want, and how you’d like to live your life. (Translation: you’ll buy fewer programs, read fewer how-to books, and get better at doing things your way. So many dollars saved!)
👉🏻I've wasted SO MANY thousands of dollars on all sorts of courses when what I really needed was to tune in to my own damn self. Because I am super awesome, I prefer to learn lessons in the most costly and difficult way possible. Please don't be as super awesome as me.